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Post by ayatollah on Mar 4, 2024 18:25:25 GMT
As some of you know I have a middle school aged daughter. She likes a boy at school named Aiden, but Aiden barely takes any notice of her.
Her brilliant plan to win him over is this: She is going to flirt with other boys. She can't flirt with him because she is shy, but she will flirt with other boys.
I was about to tell her what a bad idea that is and chalk it up to her youth and inexperience, but mom interjects saying "That's right, men love to be jealous!"
Do women really think that men think this way?!?! The only signal she will be sending to Aiden is "I like this other boy and not you".
There is no telling how many couples that could have been together didn't end up together, and how many women that didn't get the guy they wanted, because of this scatterbrain thinking.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Mar 4, 2024 18:35:07 GMT
It's a risky strategy. I've had that done to me - someone tried to play me off against another guy and my initial reaction was that of jealousy but, after a while, it turned to "fuck you, go and be with the other guy".
My suggestion, if Aiden is paying no attention, is to forget him. Don't chase what's not interested in you. No good has ever come from it, in my experience.
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Post by Catman on Mar 4, 2024 18:44:00 GMT
At least she's not planning to turn herself into a cat. Don't let her buy magic Noh masks.
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Post by ayatollah on Mar 4, 2024 18:45:34 GMT
It's a risky strategy. I've had that done to me - someone tried to play me off against another guy and my initial reaction was that of jealousy but, after a while, it turned to "fuck you, go and be with the other guy". My suggestion, if Aiden is paying no attention, is to forget him. Don't chase what's not interested in you. No good has ever come from it, in my experience. It's a stupid idea, I expect that from a 12 year old but hearing my wife think it's a great idea leaves me scratching my head. |
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Post by peachy on Mar 4, 2024 18:56:13 GMT
He would only be jealous if he liked her.
She can't make a boy like her. When he's with someone he does like, she's more likely to get jealous of the other girl.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Mar 4, 2024 18:58:19 GMT
He would only be jealous if he liked her. Indeed. Otherwise he's just not going to give a shit. |
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Post by Roxy on Mar 4, 2024 19:20:38 GMT
Oh sweetie, you’re confessing you’re female? ![[huddle]](http://storage.proboards.com/6870873/images/iSYkhOYfeUTNGpIWgmwG.gif) Totally here for you. Nice thread title, dopey. Your wife is eight steps ahead of you and being a great mom. She’s not only being positive, validating and encouraging of your daughter, she’s supporting a tack that could only do your daughter good: increase her comfort level when socializing, build confidence, make friends and/or get a boyfriend out of it by which time she’ll have forgotten about that one boy. The world is full of boys, my clueless friend. Y’all are a numbers game. Almost everything in life is. |
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Post by ayatollah on Mar 4, 2024 20:03:16 GMT
Oh sweetie, you’re confessing you’re female? Totally here for you. Nice thread title, dopey. Your wife is eight steps ahead of you and being a great mom. She’s not only being positive, validating and encouraging of your daughter, she’s supporting a tack that could only do your daughter good: increase her comfort level when socializing, build confidence, make friends and/or get a boyfriend out of it by which time she’ll have forgotten about that one boy. The world is full of boys, my clueless friend. Y’all are a numbers game. Almost everything in life is. Provocative title, on purpose and not to offend, you gotta get people's attention somehow. Yes the world is full of boys, plenty more fish, and that's what I've been telling her but she is determined she is getting her Aiden. I don't think this will work at all. She will only end up more discouraged. The best strategy for her is A) Move on. If not that, plan B) just walk right up to Aiden and talk to him. |
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Post by Roxy on Mar 4, 2024 20:10:37 GMT
Oh sweetie, you’re confessing you’re female? Totally here for you. Nice thread title, dopey. Your wife is eight steps ahead of you and being a great mom. She’s not only being positive, validating and encouraging of your daughter, she’s supporting a tack that could only do your daughter good: increase her comfort level when socializing, build confidence, make friends and/or get a boyfriend out of it by which time she’ll have forgotten about that one boy. The world is full of boys, my clueless friend. Y’all are a numbers game. Almost everything in life is. Provocative title, on purpose and not to offend, you gotta get people's attention somehow. Yes the world is full of boys, plenty more fish, and that's what I've been telling her but she is determined she is getting her Aiden. I don't think this will work at all. She will only end up more discouraged. She is twelve and she’s setting out to flirt with boys. She won’t remember him by June, unless he’s her friend or boyfriend by then. You’re just jealous that your daughter loves a guy who’s not you. You’ll be fine. You don’t need to ‘enlighten’ her to snap her out of anything; that would be for you and not for her. She’s on a healthy track. Okay, to address your edit: Worst case scenario — she feels rejected at some point. Guess what, that’s healthy too and all part of the process of growing. You can’t save her from that; it wouldn’t be saving her at all, it would be stunting her. She’s where she should be. You? We might need to get you an appointment with the guidance counselor. 😛 ayatollah |
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Post by ayatollah on Mar 4, 2024 20:51:40 GMT
Provocative title, on purpose and not to offend, you gotta get people's attention somehow. Yes the world is full of boys, plenty more fish, and that's what I've been telling her but she is determined she is getting her Aiden. I don't think this will work at all. She will only end up more discouraged. She is twelve and she’s setting out to flirt with boys. She won’t remember him by June, unless he’s her friend or boyfriend by then. You’re just jealous that your daughter loves a guy who’s not you. You’ll be fine. You don’t need to ‘enlighten’ her to snap her out of anything; that would be for you and not for her. She’s on a healthy track. Okay, to address your edit: Worst case scenario — she feels rejected at some point. Guess what, that’s healthy too and all part of the process of growing. You can’t save her from that; it wouldn’t be saving her at all, it would be stunting her. She’s where she should be. You? We might need to get you an appointment with the guidance counselor. 😛 ayatollah For her to develop in healthy way she should either be direct with Aiden or just consider other boys. Continuing to think "If I do x he will be mine" even after no interest is shown, isn't healthy at all. I'm pretty sure she will be fine no matter what, normal growing pains. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2024 21:15:41 GMT
For the next presentation tell her to spontaneously perform Miley's Wrecking Ball. Thatll get some eyeballs and attention lol
On a more serious note though, if that somehow works then so be it. If not, she'll learn another way hopefully. She would know the dynamics and "facts" on the ground I guess. Live and learn
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Mar 4, 2024 21:18:55 GMT
She is twelve and she’s setting out to flirt with boys. She won’t remember him by June, unless he’s her friend or boyfriend by then. You’re just jealous that your daughter loves a guy who’s not you. You’ll be fine. You don’t need to ‘enlighten’ her to snap her out of anything; that would be for you and not for her. She’s on a healthy track. Okay, to address your edit: Worst case scenario — she feels rejected at some point. Guess what, that’s healthy too and all part of the process of growing. You can’t save her from that; it wouldn’t be saving her at all, it would be stunting her. She’s where she should be. You? We might need to get you an appointment with the guidance counselor. 😛 ayatollah For her to develop in healthy way she should either be direct with Aiden or just consider other boys. Continuing to think "If I do x he will be mine" even after no interest is shown, isn't healthy at all. I'm pretty sure she will be fine no matter what, normal growing pains. Agreeing with you all the way. Roxy's trying to make it about you - what a load of garbage. Have you seen this Aiden kid? The only Aiden I knew at school was a fat kid. Annoying as well, so I'm not seeing the positive here. |
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Post by ayatollah on Mar 4, 2024 21:37:00 GMT
For her to develop in healthy way she should either be direct with Aiden or just consider other boys. Continuing to think "If I do x he will be mine" even after no interest is shown, isn't healthy at all. I'm pretty sure she will be fine no matter what, normal growing pains. Agreeing with you all the way. Roxy's trying to make it about you - what a load of garbage. Have you seen this Aiden kid? The only Aiden I knew at school was a fat kid. Annoying as well, so I'm not seeing the positive here. No I haven't. This boy Aiden is popular, a bunch of girls like him. She has had a crush on him since September. My biggest reason for talking about it is my wife thinking this jealousy strategy is a good one. I guess women generally do think that way, only Peachy seems to think it's a silly idea. I think Gwyn is offended by the title, but I intended it to be a little offensive to get ladies participating. |
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Mar 4, 2024 22:05:11 GMT
Agreeing with you all the way. Roxy's trying to make it about you - what a load of garbage. Have you seen this Aiden kid? The only Aiden I knew at school was a fat kid. Annoying as well, so I'm not seeing the positive here. No I haven't. This boy Aiden is popular, a bunch of girls like him. She has had a crush on him since September. My biggest reason for talking about it is my wife thinking this jealousy strategy is a good one. I guess women generally do think that way, only Peachy seems to think it's a silly idea. I think Gwyn is offended by the title, but I intended it to be a little offensive to get ladies participating. There were a load of boys at my school who were popular. They were not the ones who made it. They went to parties, but they fucked up in their exams. I was a complete book dork at school and never got anywhere girl-wise, but I got somewhere job-wise. I hope your daughter understands this. |
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Post by azn_2 on Mar 4, 2024 23:54:58 GMT
No I haven't. This boy Aiden is popular, a bunch of girls like him. She has had a crush on him since September. My biggest reason for talking about it is my wife thinking this jealousy strategy is a good one. I guess women generally do think that way, only Peachy seems to think it's a silly idea. I think Gwyn is offended by the title, but I intended it to be a little offensive to get ladies participating. There were a load of boys at my school who were popular. They were not the ones who made it. They went to parties, but they fucked up in their exams. I was a complete book dork at school and never got anywhere girl-wise, but I got somewhere job-wise. I hope your daughter understands this. So you're saying you're ugly.? ![[laugh]](http://storage.proboards.com/6870873/images/kPFtBpkwzwpFTaSmbFWI.gif) |
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