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Post by ShadowSouL Likes This on Apr 3, 2024 2:10:51 GMT
Yikes this thread. I wonder at what age dudes stop seeing young girls as children. Evidently it's before 12. Or maybe as soon as they show an interest in boys, all that damage and baggage gets projected onto them and they're lumped in with some shitty woman that hurt them đ„Ž Kind of an inherent issue with men, they see girls as women way too soonI wonder if society in general has anything to do with that. As just one example of many I'm sure, consider child beauty pageants. Remember JonBenet?
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Post by Roxy on Apr 3, 2024 3:06:20 GMT
Yikes this thread. I wonder at what age dudes stop seeing young girls as children. Evidently it's before 12. Or maybe as soon as they show an interest in boys, all that damage and baggage gets projected onto them and they're lumped in with some shitty woman that hurt them đ„Ž Kind of an inherent issue with men, they see girls as women way too soonI wonder if society in general has anything to do with that. As just one example of many I'm sure, consider child beauty pageants. Remember JonBenet? I know youâre replying to a post that includes some generalizations, but to refocus on the original narrative and get your opinion on it: Iâm quite sure ayatollah, as a father, is responsible for his fucked up priorities of holding I TOLD YA SO bragging rights above his daughterâs happiness and emotional health. And if he, as an individual, could see his daughter as his *twelve year-old* daughter and a shy young girl, rather than as some smaller version of his wife/her mother, he might just free himself up to fathom that boys are going to like who theyâre going to like, girls are going to like who theyâre going to like; itâs not something you can control and it leads to middle school heartbreak. His job in this moment is to be there with a hug and his best efforts to bring light where there is disappointment. What say you, Soul?
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Post by ShadowSouL Likes This on Apr 3, 2024 3:14:22 GMT
I wonder if society in general has anything to do with that. As just one example of many I'm sure, consider child beauty pageants. Remember JonBenet? I know youâre replying to a post that includes some generalizations, but to refocus on the original narrative and get your opinion on it: Iâm quite sure ayatollah, as a father, is responsible for his fucked up priorities of holding I TOLD YA SO bragging rights above his daughterâs happiness and emotional health. And if he, as an individual, could see his daughter as his *twelve year-old* daughter and a shy young girl, rather than as some smaller version of his wife/her mother, he might just free himself up to fathom that boys are going to like who theyâre going to like, girls are going to like who theyâre going to like; itâs not something you can control and it leads to middle school heartbreak. His job in this moment is to be there with a hug and his best efforts to bring light where there is disappointment. What say you, Soul? No argument with you there, Roxy.
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Post by Hnefahogg on Apr 3, 2024 6:54:21 GMT
Are all men suspected predators? Yes. That's why we keep men away from children for the most part. They really can't be trusted. All children, and not just girls? I hardly think you're allowed to generalise gay people to be pedos in this day and age.
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Post by Roxy on Apr 3, 2024 9:02:29 GMT
Are all men suspected predators?
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Post by Roxy on Apr 3, 2024 9:13:18 GMT
Yes. That's why we keep men away from children for the most part. They really can't be trusted. All children, and not just girls? I hardly think you're allowed to generalise gay people to be pedos in this day and age. Sheâs not generalizing gays as predators any more than straight men. I believe by saying âchildrenâ sheâs saying the possibility of danger exists with all men. And as the boardsâ second greatest đ South Park fan posting some old black and white clip, whatchyu talkin bout, Willis?? There are far too many to post.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Apr 3, 2024 10:24:39 GMT
Are all men suspected predators? Yes. That's why we keep men away from children for the most part. They really can't be trusted. Good grief. What happened in your past to make you think that?
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Post by ayatollah on Apr 3, 2024 12:49:38 GMT
Yikes this thread. I wonder at what age dudes stop seeing young girls as children. Evidently it's before 12. Or maybe as soon as they show an interest in boys, all that damage and baggage gets projected onto them and they're lumped in with some shitty woman that hurt them đ„Ž Kind of an inherent issue with men, they see girls as women way too soonI wonder if society in general has anything to do with that. As just one example of many I'm sure, consider child beauty pageants. Remember JonBenet? Who said the girl was a woman? Another female problem, they don't hear the words you say, they react emotionally and hear things that were not said.
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Post by ayatollah on Apr 3, 2024 12:50:39 GMT
Yes. That's why we keep men away from children for the most part. They really can't be trusted. Good grief. What happened in your past to make you think that? She is reacting to the provocative title, which is what I wanted but she isn't responding to the subject, but her own imaginary boogeymen.
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Post by ayatollah on Apr 3, 2024 12:57:35 GMT
I wonder if society in general has anything to do with that. As just one example of many I'm sure, consider child beauty pageants. Remember JonBenet? I know youâre replying to a post that includes some generalizations, but to refocus on the original narrative and get your opinion on it: Iâm quite sure ayatollah, as a father, is responsible for his fucked up priorities of holding I TOLD YA SO bragging rights above his daughterâs happiness and emotional health. And if he, as an individual, could see his daughter as his *twelve year-old* daughter and a shy young girl, rather than as some smaller version of his wife/her mother, he might just free himself up to fathom that boys are going to like who theyâre going to like, girls are going to like who theyâre going to like; itâs not something you can control and it leads to middle school heartbreak. His job in this moment is to be there with a hug and his best efforts to bring light where there is disappointment. What say you, Soul? No, my job to is help her not make bad decisions. That's what I did. A shitty parent reinforces the bad decisions, telling a the child "Aw, it's okay, you didn't do anything wrong." and the kid continues in life thinking "Yeah, that behavior is okay".
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Post by Hnefahogg on Apr 3, 2024 14:30:41 GMT
All children, and not just girls? I hardly think you're allowed to generalise gay people to be pedos in this day and age. Sheâs not generalizing gays as predators any more than straight men. I believe by saying âchildrenâ sheâs saying the possibility of danger exists with all men. And as the boardsâ second greatest đ South Park fan posting some old black and white clip, whatchyu talkin bout, Willis?? There are far too many to post. I think that it's considered non-PC and bigoted now to draw a parallel between pedophilia and homosexuality, i.e. that a disproportionate amount of pedophiles are same-sex attracted or that (even more) gays are overrepresented among pedophiles. That parallel was often drawn in the past, I believe. I dunno, but now society has probably progressed to regarding straight men as the biggest predators. đ Yes. That's why we keep men away from children for the most part. They really can't be trusted. Good grief. What happened in your past to make you think that? She has society on her side in this, I'd say. For example, a man being a daycare worker? That's a big no-no.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Apr 3, 2024 14:36:35 GMT
Good grief. What happened in your past to make you think that? I think she has society on her side in this. For example, a man being a daycare worker? That's a big no-no. That a very long way from "all men are suspected predators". That's the mind of paranoia, not society.
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Post by ayatollah on Apr 3, 2024 15:55:02 GMT
Sheâs not generalizing gays as predators any more than straight men. I believe by saying âchildrenâ sheâs saying the possibility of danger exists with all men. And as the boardsâ second greatest đ South Park fan posting some old black and white clip, whatchyu talkin bout, Willis?? There are far too many to post. I think that it's considered non-PC and bigoted now to draw a parallel between pedophilia and homosexuality, i.e. that a disproportionate amount of pedophiles are same-sex attracted or that (even more) gays are overrepresented among pedophiles. That parallel was often drawn in the past, I believe. I dunno, but now society has probably progressed to regarding straight men as the biggest predators. đ Good grief. What happened in your past to make you think that? She has society on her side in this, I'd say. For example, a man being a daycare worker? That's a big no-no. It's not normal, but afaik it's not a "no-no".
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Post by Hnefahogg on Apr 3, 2024 17:08:12 GMT
I think she has society on her side in this. For example, a man being a daycare worker? That's a big no-no. That a very long way from "all men are suspected predators". That's the mind of paranoia, not society. Well, society was a bad choice of words. I didn't mean to say that everyone suspects men to be pedophiles but nevertheless, I do think it is a fairly commonly held mindset. Common enough to keep most men from becoming daycare workers, probably. And I agree it is a paranoia. I think that it's considered non-PC and bigoted now to draw a parallel between pedophilia and homosexuality, i.e. that a disproportionate amount of pedophiles are same-sex attracted or that (even more) gays are overrepresented among pedophiles. That parallel was often drawn in the past, I believe. I dunno, but now society has probably progressed to regarding straight men as the biggest predators. đ She has society on her side in this, I'd say. For example, a man being a daycare worker? That's a big no-no. It's not normal, but afaik it's not a "no-no". "Logically", a man working as a high school teacher should be more suspicious as probably a lot more men are hebephiles (attracted to teenagers) than pedophiles (prepubescent children).
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Apr 3, 2024 17:12:10 GMT
That a very long way from "all men are suspected predators". That's the mind of paranoia, not society. Well, society was a bad choice of words. I didn't mean to say that everyone suspects men to be pedophiles but nevertheless, I do think it is a fairly commonly held mindset. Common enough to keep most men from becoming daycare workers, probably. And I agree it is a paranoia. May be the case for some but I suspect most men don't want to be daycare workers because (i) they see it as a woman's job (a bit cissy for a guy), (ii) the pay is shit and (iii) being around snot-nosed screaming little brats all day is pure hell for most guys.
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