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Post by ayatollah on Jun 29, 2022 23:01:18 GMT
I mean someone who doesn't deserve it, but something about them just makes you feel annoyed and you're mean to them?
I have a new coworker, a young guy who is polite and very friendly, I'm supposed to be training him but he gets on my nerves for no valid reason.
When he tries to chat with me I ignore him. He'll try to show me videos of shit idgaf about and I'll quickly glance then go back to whatever I was doing without even a facial expression.
Every time someone in the chain of command asks about his progress, like a reflex, I am negative.
I'm being unnecessarily cruel to someone who doesn't deserve it. I feel bad.
My assholery could cost this kid a job. I've got to stop being this way.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Jun 30, 2022 6:51:37 GMT
Do you think maybe he subconsciously reminds you of someone you used to dislike? Maybe someone at school?
Or is he a millennial twit going on about his feelings and stuff?
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Post by Black Power Ranger on Jun 30, 2022 9:14:51 GMT
I find it a little odd that you don’t know why you don’t like him.
There are many who I don’t like but there’s always a reason.
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Post by ayatollah on Jun 30, 2022 11:25:13 GMT
I find it a little odd that you don’t know why you don’t like him. There are many who I don’t like but there’s always a reason. He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. |
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Post by ayatollah on Jun 30, 2022 11:26:12 GMT
Do you think maybe he subconsciously reminds you of someone you used to dislike? Maybe someone at school? Or is he a millennial twit going on about his feelings and stuff? I think this kid is Gen Z. I'm a millennial. Was this post supposed to be a shot at me? I'm a millennial going on about my feels. Mr Cool Gen Xer has just put in in my place. |
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Jun 30, 2022 11:56:56 GMT
Do you think maybe he subconsciously reminds you of someone you used to dislike? Maybe someone at school? Or is he a millennial twit going on about his feelings and stuff? I think this kid is Gen Z. I'm a millennial. Was this post supposed to be a shot at me? I'm a millennial going on about my feels. Mr Cool Gen Xer has just put in in my place. No shot at you at all. I meant someone who's a bit young and wasn't really paying attention to the accuracy of which generation I meant. I think of a millennial as about 20 years old but you are right, it's about 30+ now. Anyway, based on what you are saying - laughing at everything - that does indicate young and slightly nervous. People like that bug me a bit but I just tell myself it's better than the opposite - someone who's miserable all the time. I used to work with someone who brought a rain cloud into the room every time he came in - that was painful. At least this guy is bringing a happy outlook. |
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Post by Black Power Ranger on Jun 30, 2022 12:02:27 GMT
I find it a little odd that you don’t know why you don’t like him. There are many who I don’t like but there’s always a reason. He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. Oh, ok. Well that’s different. With people like that, I just find a way to communicate that things would be better if they stopped. Just lie and say you’re stressed about something and don’t want to hear all of the talking. |
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Jun 30, 2022 12:04:21 GMT
He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. Oh, ok. Well that’s different. With people like that, I just find a way to communicate that things would be better if they stopped. Just lie and say you’re stressed about something and don’t want to hear all of the talking. I have a male friend who won't shut up. I just switch off and think about the other stuff I need to do. |
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Post by PaulsLaugh on Jun 30, 2022 13:15:18 GMT
Is it like he’s younger and cuter than you, and you suspect you could be training your replacement?
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Post by PaulsLaugh on Jun 30, 2022 13:16:32 GMT
I find it a little odd that you don’t know why you don’t like him. There are many who I don’t like but there’s always a reason. He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. I think I know what the problem is, he’s happy. |
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Post by PaulsLaugh on Jun 30, 2022 13:19:22 GMT
Oh, ok. Well that’s different. With people like that, I just find a way to communicate that things would be better if they stopped. Just lie and say you’re stressed about something and don’t want to hear all of the talking. I have a male friend who won't shut up. I just switch off and think about the other stuff I need to do. I like think about stuff inside my head too. I never lose those arguments. |
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Post by peachy on Jun 30, 2022 14:42:52 GMT
I mean someone who doesn't deserve it, but something about them just makes you feel annoyed and you're mean to them? I have a new coworker, a young guy who is polite and very friendly, I'm supposed to be training him but he gets on my nerves for no valid reason. When he tries to chat with me I ignore him. He'll try to show me videos of shit idgaf about and I'll quickly glance then go back to whatever I was doing without even a facial expression. Every time someone in the chain of command asks about his progress, like a reflex, I am negative. I'm being unnecessarily cruel to someone who doesn't deserve it. I feel bad. My assholery could cost this kid a job. I've got to stop being this way. It might not be entirely your fault. I've been listening to a lot of vids about vibrations and about how everything is vibration and frequency and attraction. They say we attract certain people and behavior by the vibrations we emit. That kid is attracting that behavior from you due to his vibrations that he's giving out. He might feel inferior or inadequate, and he's giving that vibration out that attracts the kind of treatment you're giving him. Everything is attraction. There is no assertion. But to answer your question, yes. I have felt that way about certain people, and I tried to avoid them. If I couldn't, I just tried my best to be cordial. |
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Post by mowlick on Jun 30, 2022 14:56:20 GMT
I find it a little odd that you don’t know why you don’t like him. There are many who I don’t like but there’s always a reason. He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. He is nervous.
Get him transferred to another department or help him find another job.
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Post by Flying Monkeys on Jun 30, 2022 14:58:08 GMT
He gets on my nerves rambling and blabbering, and he laughs about everything. He is nervous.
Get him transferred to another department or help him find another job.
I think ayatollah makes him nervous. ![[yes]](http://storage.proboards.com/6870873/images/fDNOMYWwtDsMxdpbcTXP.gif) |
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Post by Black Power Ranger on Jun 30, 2022 15:12:43 GMT
Oh, ok. Well that’s different. With people like that, I just find a way to communicate that things would be better if they stopped. Just lie and say you’re stressed about something and don’t want to hear all of the talking. I have a male friend who won't shut up. I just switch off and think about the other stuff I need to do. If it’s a friend then you should be able to tell him to shut up. |
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